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We all have had bad dates before. If you insist you have not, then you are just in denial and delusional. There are some signs that your date is not going very well.
There are a lot of silences.
These often happen on first dates. Sometimes it is because of nerves. Other times it is because your date is not interested in anything you have to say.
The difference between “I’m nervous,” and “I have nothing to say to you,” is easy to spot. She keeps talking about her ex. This suggests that she is not yet over her ex.
If he really is so awful, why is he always on her mind? That is because deep down, she loves him. She “has to leave early”.
It is only five minutes into the date.
And all you could do is just introduce yourself. Then she mentions how she needs to leave soon. Every couple of minutes, she checks the time.
She is wishing she can speed up time. Since she cannot wait for it to be over quickly enough. She is constantly checking her phone.
She is hoping for any excuse to ditch you. Sometimes girls orchestrate a situation where a friend calls with an “emergency”. So they that can leave the date early.
Other girls would simply text their friends.
Whom they would rather hang out with. If her phone makes lots of cameos on your date, it is over even before it began. She does not ask questions about you.
All she wants to do is just talk about herself. By the end of the date, you know her favorite band, how many times she has seen their concert, who is her favorite member, where her grandparents lived, what countries her grandparents migrated from, who is her best friend, what her best friend does for a living, how much yoga she does, how she thinks yoga is a scam, how she thinks the President is a member of the Illuminati, how she thinks the Illuminati is following her everywhere, how racist her parents are, which are her favorite TV shows, who writes her favorite TV shows, what else the writer of her favorite TV show has done, her dog, and how her dog humps at everyone’s legs. And all she knows about you, is that you are paying the bill for this date.
There you have it. If you see anything like these occur on your date, you are most likely on quite a bad date. There is a lot to learn about conversation than anybody might ever realize.
There are certain rules when it concerns interaction through words.
Despite it is your mouth that is doing the work, it is your brain that works twice as hard to talk out all the things you know. Interaction is about socializing. You will get to know a lot of people and a lot of ideas.
Education is about discovering knowledge. To be effective in talking is to practice what you have learned. All of us have limitations.
However, that does not mean you cannot learn to keep up and share what you know. Listening is just as important as asking questions. Sometimes listening to the sound of your own voice can teach you to be a little more confident with yourself.
And to say the things you believe in with conviction.
All of us make mistakes, and sometimes we stutter, slur, or mispronounce. So do not be scared to ask if you are saying the correct word properly. And if you are unsure about it, just make a joke out of it.
It will make her laugh. And you can get away with it. A bit of humor can do wonders to lift the tension (or boredom) when you talk.
You will get the her attention. And she will feel that you are friendly and approachable. A smile is much like an eye contact.
You can express yourself better what you are smiling.
It never hurts to listen how people make conversations. So as to learn how to make your dates enjoyable as well as educational.