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Introverts get misunderstood for being shy. The entire world appears to be populated solely by extroverts. That makes us look like weirdos for being who we are.
We are incredibly efficient.
Especially during our alone time. We are able to actually rock and roll on tasks we need to complete. The silence helps, since we are more susceptible to being distracted.
We might not prefer to be around people all the time. It does not imply we are depressed or self-destructive or anything insane like that. We hate small talk.
It is not that we cannot do small talk. Nor we do not know how to do small talk. We are simply not good at it.
Introverts are generally big-thinkers.
We like concepts and theories. Small talk is boring and uncomfortable. We do not care about the weather condition, what you ate for dinner last night, or how is your cat doing.
We do not require other people for inspiration. We inspire ourselves. We are okay being alone.
No, really, we are okay. Even if it means we hole ourselves up at home for a while. We are neither rude nor uptight.
We may appear like that initially.
We just do not always get accustomed to unfamiliar people and settings so quickly. But once you get acquainted with us, we are actually very fun to be with. We may be introverts, but we can sometimes be the life of a party.
We swing both ways at times. We can pull this off when we feel up for it. But we cannot always maintain that sort of energy going.
If we give a party, that’s great! But let us have some time to recuperate. There are only a couple of things more uncomfortable than a party.
One of them is a networking event.
Really? Isn’t there a list we can unsubscribe? Other than perhaps a dental networking event that we have been accidentally invited to.
We hate networking events. Although after a couple of beers, we can endure it. Introverts have the tendency to get juiced up easily.
So big crowds are tough to deal with. We do not like crowds. Sorry, come again?
We probably weren’t paying attention to your story.
It is not that we have ADD or something. We care very deeply about our friends. However, people beyond that circle will have a difficult time keeping our attention.
We simply do not care about you. On the other hand, we will not judge you. So do not hesitate to tell us all the screwed up things you went through your ex.
If we do not like you, you will not know it. It’s a matter of fact. We abhor conflict.
So although we dislike you, we will still be nice.
It is much easier than being genuine with you. Especially when your feelings are not important enough. That clashing head-on with you and your bullshit is just a waste of our time.
Sorry. Oops. Not sorry.
When people hear ‘introvert’ and the nerd sitting alone in the canteen comes to mind. That’s an entire different thing completely. We do have friends.
We enjoy having friends.
And friends enjoy having us! We put in a lot of effort for people we believe are worth it. We feel safe around the right kind of people.
It is amazing to have the right kind of people in our lives. We would give the best of ourselves to the right kind of people. We glow in the right kind of company.
But it often takes some time to discover those people. Want to give us a call? Try texting instead.
We prefer to write things out.
Writing is much easier than talking for us. It gets the ideas out of our minds without being disrupted. Do not make a big fuss out of our birthdays.
For a very long time, I had a lot of trouble understanding why I disliked my birthdays so much. Everybody I knew would come and celebrate with me. Then I realized that is the problem!
We do not have to make a big fuss out of birthdays. So please do not do it to us. We do not want to make a big fuss out of your birthday, either.
We can silently honor the yearly birthday, right?
If we chose to be your friend, appreciate it. We prize our alone time immensely. If we do see you frequently, it implies that we truly love you.
Just don’t feel dejected if we do not meet up a week at a time sometimes.